Is Therapy for Me?
How do I know if therapy will be helpful for me?
If you are on the fence about going to therapy, it doesn't hurt to give it a try to see if it works for you and to find out if it is helpful. It is important to find a therapist who is the right fit as well; it makes all the difference to talk with someone you feel comfortable with and with whom you have a trusting relationship; it is then that healing is more likely to happen. I would love to speak with you to see if we are a good fit to work together.
It can be scary to think about going to therapy at first, and the stigma associated with going to therapy in this culture (and in many cultures) does not help. Also, we can think that we can figure things out on our own or that we should be strong enough to handle our struggles. However, I believe it is a strength to reach out for help and to say what we need. In reality, we all need support and help at some point in our lives no matter what we are going through - big or small. We are social beings and it is crucial to have someone we can talk with who understands what we are going through in order to get through whatever life is giving us. In addition to the emotional support, therapists can help with seeing patterns and family dynamics that one who isn't trained may not see. Thus, therapy is all about gaining the emotional support needed while also understanding why we may be having certain struggles. Making the unconscious conscious is the goal of therapy; this means there are many things we are not aware of and the more we can uncover the roles we play in certain dynamics and why we are in so much emotional pain, the less stuck we are and the more freedom and choices we may have in our lives to build the life that we want. I have found this true for myself.
Even if one of your struggles seems small, there may be bigger aspects to it that we may not realize. I believe that everything is connected. This smaller issue may point us to some deeper pain that needs to be heard. I believe that any amount of emotional pain is a cry to be heard, and the unconscious is wanting us to understand why this particular issue is bothering you. In addition, if you are in a tremendous amount of emotional pain that seems overwhelming or too much, it is even more important for this pain to be heard and understood. It will get better and feel less overwhelming the more it is talked about, heard, and understood. I want to hear what your pain has to say; it deserves to tell its story. YOU deserve to tell your story.